Toke Makinwa, TV personality and vlogger, has incited a heated argument on the Nigerian Twittersphere following her comments on marriage.
The vlogger had taken to social media to advise couples not to “lose their peace” over their partners’ infidelity but should rather channel their energy into improving themselves.
She was speaking in reaction to a viral video of a woman publicly confronting her husband’s lover in a Lagos shopping mall.
“I think the whole marriage concept of “owning” your partner is flawed. You do not own anyone, you are not responsible for another’s action, it should not drive you mad,” she wrote.
“Two people make a choice to do life together, one person defaults on promises/vows, it is not a reflection of you, don’t lose your peace over another human being.
“In one single action, she’s made the alleged side chick an angel, the girl walked away while the woman looked hella crazy. Resist the urge to let another’s action make you crazy.
I think the whole marriage concept of "owning" your partner is flawed. You do not own anyone, you are not responsible for another's action, it should not drive you mad
Advertisement— Toke Makinwa (@tokstarr) January 8, 2020
Two people make a choice to do life together, one person defaults on promises/vows, it is not a reflection of you, don't lose your peace over another human being.
— Toke Makinwa (@tokstarr) January 8, 2020
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In one single action, she's made the alleged side chick an angel, the girl walked away while the woman looked hella crazy. Resist the urge to let another's action make you crazy
— Toke Makinwa (@tokstarr) January 8, 2020
Makinwa’s flurry of tweets have since sparked off argument on Twitter, where users are registering their diverse opinions.
While a segment of users disagreed with the TV personality’s assertion, others supported her stance and also accused her critics of habitually “twisting her words”.
“There are some topics Toke Makinwa shouldn’t be addressing publicly please,” a user wrote.
“Nigerians have a serious comprehension problem @tokstarr. Toke simply said ladies should work on themselves and be better people for themselves and don’t lose themselves when a man’s action is driving them crazy. The man’s action is on him, don’t blame/lose yourself. English!,” said a Twitter user.
“Aunty Toke please dear. When you are in a relationship or marriage, your actions have a direct impact on your partner, you are not only accountable to them, you owe it to them to be of your best behavior.,” another user said.
Here is what some Nigerians had to say:
There are some topics Toke Makinwa shouldn’t be addressing publicly 😔 please
— Bola Montana🦋 (@borlah_m) January 8, 2020
Sister Toke, I think marriage is a commitment. If your partner's actions doesn't affect you, then something is wrong. https://t.co/3g0D1Ei9wH
— Pablo Noser (@pablobignose) January 8, 2020
Nigerians have a serious comprehension problem. @tokstarr. Toke simply said ladies should work on themselves and be better people for themselves and don't loose themselves when a man's action is driving them crazy. The man's action is on him, don't blame/loose yourself. English!
— OnyxDiary.Com (@OnyxGodwin) January 8, 2020
Aunty Toke plis dear.
When you are in a relationship or marriage, your actions have direct impact on your partner, you are not only accountable to them, you owe it to them to be of your best behavior.
— Brown Sugar🤎🤎🤎 (@yettyclassy) January 8, 2020
The internet didn't forget Burnaboy's okots talk about streaming numbers now they didn't forget Toke words and book about cheating guys and side chics 😂 pic.twitter.com/6auMyqxGTe
— Kiddee La baller (@iam_kiddee) January 8, 2020
Wait, why are y'all attacking Toke again? When you marry someone, do they automatically become your property? You do not own them, you should never let their actions drive you mad..
Valid!!!— Olannaya🔱👑💞👄 (@ifeomatess) January 8, 2020
Is it not the same toke that her sugar daddy’s kids dragged that time?
Lmaoooo, aunty keep producing bags mbok— ‘l o l u🕊 (@fayookunmi) January 8, 2020
Some of you just wait for Toke to tweet so you can twist whatever she says! Wth
— Priscilia(TRE) (@Haduphe) January 8, 2020
Nigerians yet again proving why we'll keep writing IELTS. Toke said: be the best woman you can be irrespective of your husband's misbehaviour. You people just love to misconstrue whatever she says
— Archetype Gentleman (@Headbobba) January 8, 2020
Toke is that woman everyone loves to attack even when she speaks truths.
It doesn't matter if she tweets 1+1=2, y'all will take offence.Simple "work on urself" and u pple are bringing in her marriage, as if she didn't work on herself, wrote a book and became a boss lady. pic.twitter.com/V1kOXUYFFl
— Adunni Achebe (@Adunni_Achebe) January 8, 2020
Nothing to fear, where’s the lie in all the lady said. Never liked toke’s way of reasoning and I don’t think I’ll ever do https://t.co/SCIsFNSiJC
— Tobi the thrift seller 😁 (@MizzTOH_BEE) January 8, 2020
While i respect your right to own an opinion Aunty Toke, i also respectfully think your opinion is trash and shouldn't have been tweeted. Have a nice day https://t.co/0vyBD6tCls
— Sensei🔴 (@nonamewxyz) January 8, 2020
If you look at it critically, Toke's claim is understandable coming from the angle of having been in similar situation before.
However, I disapprove of her experience as a generic ideology of how couples shouldn't be accountable for their actions.
— Pablo Noser (@pablobignose) January 8, 2020
She's actually making sense but everyone seems to enjoy jumping on the Toke bashing bandwagon. Have a day off https://t.co/swjDli9q5v
— ofuje (@nstuje) January 8, 2020
I shudder at how badly #TwitterNG twists things & blow it out of proportion.
Had to go thru this Toke Makinwa's tweet to see what the fuss is abt and can't quite see anything it.
But some egg heads on this app will still take up issues where there is NONE.
Gbas Gbos for where? pic.twitter.com/6yjVRTARSP
— AURA❤️COOL (@TWEETORACLE) January 8, 2020
Toke lauds cheating for men, as she advice married women to be of best behavior irrespective of their man’s infidelities.
— MAYOWA OLAGUNJU ❁ (@iam_doctormayor) January 8, 2020
I have gone through @tokstarr's timeline & I don't understand why you people are dragging her. She didn't say anything wrong today, but you people are dragging her. I guess myself & her are on the same page today. She made a lot of sense. "WOMEN, BUILD YOURSELVES". Efi Toke sile
— B h a d o o s k y (@BhadmusAkeem) January 8, 2020
Toke Makinwa is a real example of what we call GRACE. If Brain gives Money, Toke will be far from the Shelf.
Toke is not smart at all.
— Omo Rapala (@kpumpin0007) January 8, 2020
This toke Makinwa na disgrace you woman hood
— Yacim emmanuel (@yacim986) January 8, 2020
I checked Toke’s tweet and I get where she’s coming from.
I even thought she said something bad.
Maybe it’s the way she put it or because it’s from her but she’s trying to say never let another human being fuck with your mind so much that you do what that married woman did.
— Peng Man 🔥 (@mjjuniormodel) January 8, 2020
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