In spite of the account of her relationship with Maje Ayida in ‘On Becoming’, television personality, Toke Makinwa, says she never saw herself as being in a bad marriage.


Makinwa and Ayida were married for only eighteen months before parting ways.

In the tell-all memoir published after their marriage collapsed, Makinwa documented instances of alleged infidelity and neglect.

But in an interview with South African television personality, Anele Mdoda, the on-air-personality said she was not bitter while in the marriage.


She said: “I never saw myself in a bad marriage because even upon till the very last day I was married, it was like a journey.

Makinwa said herself and Ayida were flawed and that eventually, she realised they weren’t destined to be together.

“I was never of the thought that my marriage is so bad, I was not feeling bitter, he is flawed, I am flawed, we are just probably trying to exist, so he came with his own baggage, I came with my own baggage and we probably are not just meant to be together,” she said.


In ‘On Becoming’, Makinwa also noted that her former mother-in-law prayed for her to get “her own husband” even while she was in a relationship with Ayida.

When asked how she perceived the question, she said: “I guess at that point, I didn’t even understand that prayer first, and again I think I suffered late reaction.  I think it was also caused by losing my parents because I suffered shock as a child.

“Things happen to me now, when people are telling jokes or telling a secret, I am the wrongest person to try and gossip with because I never get, It didn’t resonate at that time.

“We had a fantastic relationship, so I didn’t think it was a me thing, I just thought maybe she was just saying if it doesn’t work out, God will give you who you are meant to be with.”


Ayida has filed a N100m defamation lawsuit against Makinwa over the memoir.

The pair’s divorce suit is presently in court.

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