If you’re reading this, there’s a big chance you are considering ending things with a partner.


Breakups are no doubt painful and difficult for both parties (despite the situation of the relationship).

In order not to be that ‘awful person’ or ‘jackass’ ex whom their friends will hate forever, it is important to end things with a partner as respectfully as possible.

Hopefully, these six steps will help:


Choose a good time to break the news

It is important to note that you once had (or still have) feelings for this person. This means that you both shared special and intimate moments together. Respectfully breaking the news of a break up is therefore important.

Break up in person


Breaking up in person cannot be over-emphasised. As convenient and simple as breaking up over a text or email or phone seems, it is a totally uncool move.

Breaking up in person is the most respectful way to go about this uneasy business and getting a clean break.

What to say

Whichever way works for you, it is important to prepare ahead of time what you’re going to say.


Preparing what to say means that you are aware of why the relationship doesn’t work any longer for you.

Be positive

You’re hurt, your partner’s hurt and the situation sucks. Despite the situation, it is necessary to remain positive.

Be kind with your words and strive to make the end of your relationship as neutral and straightforward as possible. This is not the time to bring up the flaws and mistakes of your partner.


Keep your decision rigid: do not break up to make up

The breaking up to make up situation might make good fiction but in real life, it hardly ever works.

Breaking up to make up is like ingesting vomit and most likely, you’re sure to barf and throw up again. Most times, you both will be back to square one: breaking up over and over again for most likely the same reasons.

Unfriend them on social media


Don’t you just get disgusted when you find yourself stalking an ex?

To avoid this unhealthy routine, you may want to unfollow them from all social media platforms and yes, that includes phone numbers too.

And please, whatever you do, do not contact them out of misery, guilt, fear or pity. Speak to a friend instead and stay away from their lives as they do yours.

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