Five red flags to know your ‘serious’ relationship is going nowhere

A relationship may last for months, a year, five, 10 years or more before leading to exchange of vows and on the other hand, it may hit the rocks before getting to that point.

Before a relationship experiences a nosedive, there are some obvious pointers often overlooked.

Here are some clues to know if your serious relationship might be on the brink of failure.

No communication

No relationship thrives without communication. Communication is in two parts; how often you talk, chat or see each other, and how well you communicate. George Bernard Shaw writes: “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.”

Communication has been made a lot easier with the advent of technological inventions and no excuse can suffice for lack of communication.

It’s through communication that humans express their emotions. It, therefore, follows that a communication gap is an indication of a failing relationship.

No talk about future plans

At a candlelight dinner with a romantic ambience, amidst all the sweet romantic talks, a discussion about future plans is one way to know if your relationship is making headway.

When your partner avoids or frowns at the mention of future plans together, then it’s likely you are both not on the same page.

Lack of respect

Respect is the core of every human relationship and your partner cannot claim to love you and not respect you.

Lack of respect is easy to notice as it manifests in different ways; your partner makes decisions without considering how it may affect you or never considers your preferences.

If he ignores your calls, messages or abuses you verbally or otherwise, then you simply need to walk out of that relationship.

Disappearing at challenging times  

A key component of a healthy relationship is the ability to give and accept support. Only true partners are there in good times as well as bad times.

If your relationship hibernates at every challenge that pops up and if your partner cannot trust you enough to assist with personal challenges, that’s a red flag that needs attention.

Stashing

This may seem pretty insignificant but when the person you’re seeing shies away from introducing you to family and friends, then there’s a likelihood of a failure in the relationship.