Saying ‘I love you’ is much easier than showing it and sometimes, most people forget the latter part — which is more important.


As we grow older, we encounter the busiest days of our lives whether we seek it or not.

Relationships get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life and most often, suffer from the chaos.

For couples who have run out of ideas on how to express affection to each other, here are 31 ways to let your partner know you still care.


Early morning tugs

There’s nothing better than being woken up with a kiss, snuggle or a bear hug by your partner.

Short, sweet notes count


Simple notes saying “I love you” or “kick ass today at work” would definitely bring a smile on your partner’s face and go a long way in making them feel loved.

Pay attention

Don’t just listen. Pay close and undivided attention to your partner when he or she talks about something, even if it may not concern or interest you.

Make them matter


Little things like mouthing the words ‘I love you’ to your partner in a room full of people would make them feel special, wanted and cherished.


Go for a movie that has an actor/actress your partner is a fan of. Do things you wouldn’t normally do just to make your partner happy.



Be it foot or back, treat your lover to a massage after a long day at work or just as a special treat.

Admit mistakes

When you are wrong, admit that you made a mistake rather than argue or attempt to pass the buck.

Steal a glance


Occasional stolen glances even when you are both not in the same physical space is a way of showing affection.


When you can, take your lover to go dancing. You can also dance with him or her spontaneously when a romantic song is playing on the radio.

Put their feelings into consideration

Ask if your partner is free before inviting your friends over for a drink/dinner at home. Privacy is one thing human beings value a lot, so showing you consider his or her feelings enough to ask matters.


Compliment her on a new hairstyle or him on new shoes or watch. Tell your lover that he or she looks more attractive with every passing day.

Good wishes

Wish your partner luck before an important day at work. Wish them a productive day or meeting.


Call your partner if you are going to come home late. Communicating such little things makes him or her know they are still very much in the picture regardless of your busy schedule.

Surprise them

Surprise your lover with tickets for a romantic getaway. Pick his or her favourite dessert/pastries on your way home. Gift him or her a luxurious spa session. Buy a present, however small, for your lover, even when there is no occasion.

Do away with gadgets during ‘us’ time

Turn off your phone for an intimate evening of undivided attention.

Pray together

No matter your religion or differences therein, pray together.

Do a hobby together

During the weekends, pursue a hobby both of you have in common.

Be an actual date during social events

Stay close to your partner at a social event. Most people, at events, tend to leave their partners hanging. Always carry your partner along with you.

Ask for opinions

Ask for his or her opinion on topics such as politics, lifestyle, the state of the nation and the society at large.

Don’t interrupt

Don’t interrupt your partner when he or she is talking to guests. Respect their stance, opinions and world view.


Laugh at your lover’s jokes, even if you have heard them a hundred times before. There’s no harm in it.

Take a shower together

How more intimate can you get! This is it. The bond you’ll forge from bathing together is incomparable.

Smile warmly

When your eyes meet, even if you have nothing to say, just smile. It warms the heart.

Go out on unplanned dates

Pick him or her up from work and go out on impromptu dates.

Make plans together

Discuss your future together, where or what you guys intend to do or be in the nearest future.

Be adventurous

Sometimes, be extra. Invite your lover to a mystery date or do something he or she would probably not expect from you.

Relive old memories

Share nostalgic moments together; like going through your old photos or reliving an exciting experience.

Offer a helping hand

Lend a hand when you see your partner in the midst of heavy work. Offer to buy the week’s grocery supplies or wash the dishes.

Go extremely personal

Come up with silly nicknames for each other and use them only when you are alone. Customise a mug or a mouse pad with your picture for his or her desk. Get your lover’s favourite painting or photo framed by a professional. Recreate your first date. Designate a song or poem as “ours”.

Meet the family

Take your partner home to meet your family. When you can, offer to take your partner’s cousin or siblings out.

Do things together

Plan a vacation together. Watch your partner’s favourite TV show together. Hold your lover close and let your hearts beat together.

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