Toke Makinwa, media personality, has instigated a heated argument on the Nigerian Twittersphere over her opinion regarding African parents and their “unorthodox” child-raising values.
In a recent episode of her vlog, the 35-year-old OAP referred to African parents as the worst in the world.
She also vented her grievances about the parenting values among many African families which she said are “screwing up” lives.
“Thanks to African parents for ruining our lives. Growing up in an African home, there are certain things we never had the balls to say. Even now, I’m 35. I still can’t stand up to my parents,” she had said.
“African parents are the worst set of parents in the whole wide world. You never have an option on things that are coming in an African home. As a child, you’re told what to read in school.”
Makinwa’s opinion was however met with a mixed bag of commendation and outrage, as some Nigerians took to Twitter to register their diverse views on the matter.
While a segment of users disagreed with the OAP, urging her to speak for herself, others came to her defence, condemning the “hypocrisy” of some of her critics — who they claim once described African parenting as “disguised child abuse”.
“Toke: Your parent ruined and destroyed your life. You can’t put all our parents on this table. Its meant for only your parents,” a Twitter user said.
“Nigerian are hilarious, one minute they are shouting about how our parent brought us up in toxic environments etc, Toke shares opinion, the same parents are now liquid gold,” another user said.
Here is what some Nigerians had to say:
Toke: Your parent ruined and destroyed your life……..You can't put all our parents on this table. Its meant for only your parents. https://t.co/84ewqgwL3IAdvertisement
— Dr Olusoji PhD(Affidavit) (@holusoji70) January 11, 2020
Nigerian are hilarious, one minute they are shouting about how our parent brought us up in toxic environments etc, Toke shares opinion, the same parents are now liquid gold. https://t.co/7QZdeIiB20
— MuiMui (@duchessmuriel) January 11, 2020Advertisement
But why do Nigerians hate Toke though? Where is the lie in what she said? So many of us were raised in a toxic pattern of verbal, emotional n physical abuse. Our parents ignorantly thought being abusive towards us meant instilling discipline in us. I stand with Toke on this one.
— Contemporary Wife🛡 (@julyearth) January 11, 2020
Toke Makinwa is right on this one. I can remember when i was whipped nearly to fainting because I didnt want to go to school.
Why not buy me biscuit and pet me and make me see why education is important.
Get whipped at home, get whipped in school.
Get beaten on the streets.
— Jayson Rogue (@jaysonrogue) January 11, 2020
We've always echoed how African parents disguised abuse as home training, never apologized to their kids for their wrongdoings, forced career paths, religious beliefs & spousal choices on their kids & so on.
But since it's Toke saying these things, let's all foam from the mouth.
— Adunni Achebe (@Adunni_Achebe) January 11, 2020
Stop dragging toke like gen.
Most of the things she said in the blog are most of the things y'all on twitter streets have been saying years ago about your parents.
Small headline, una dey die… read the fucking post or go and watch the blog to understand what she said and how
— Melody Ifeanyi Adigo(M.I.A) (@themelodynotmia) January 11, 2020
Your parent ruined YOUR life Toke. Blame popc e ati momc e.
Kind Regards. https://t.co/lz80tXu4rB
— Lord Scummander Rtd. (@zhurg_) January 11, 2020
Toke Your parent ruined your life
If you agree with her , your parents ruined your lives
My Parent never ruined my life for a day, grew up with a single parent who tried all her best to give me the very best
I will never take that for granted , not for twitter likes and retweet
— S.L.E.D.G.E 🔨 (@SledgeAma) January 11, 2020
Lowkey y’all know Toke Makinwa is right. Most African parents that tied their children down with “Honour thy father and thy mother, so that ur days may be long on earth”.
Some of you call it TOUGH LOVE but let’s be frank, it’s CHILD ABUSE.
— Forehead Model 🌷 (@sinful_lola) January 11, 2020
I watched this vlog and a lot of the things Toke said were relatable. She said things y’all say on Twitter anyway🤷🏾♀️.
She even said “if our parents didn’t raise us the way they did a lot of us would have been rotten by now”
I can bet most of you didn’t watch the vlog🙄 https://t.co/4UPJYi7X7v
— Youtube: Damie Alabi (@theowambequeen) January 11, 2020
I remember saying I'm going to slap the hell out of my kids after y'all cried about the way your parents hit you.
You people RTed it till Black American twitter dragged my ass.
Now y'all are dragging Toke for strengthening your claim about your African parents
Una hate her shaa
— Ablebae💊 💊 (@Dlaureate) January 11, 2020
Toke’s fans. How can you in your right senses, stan someone who confidently spews trash. Y’all queen needs to calm tf down. The shit in a septic tank is nothing, compared to what comes out of her mouth. Fr ☠️ pic.twitter.com/eE5t7gWYpE
— Mokeji (@Mokeji5) January 11, 2020
I don’t always support Toke, but wasn’t it sometime in 2019, y’all wrote epistles about how your parents ruined your lives, but since we don’t like her we gotta drag her, I need y’all to take a stand on Twitter. Hoes
— ℙ𝔸ℙ𝕀 (@_MrRebel) January 11, 2020
'They don’t tell you what you’re good at but what they think you should be doing.'
'African parents don’t apologize. They’re never wrong.'
These and many more have been the narrative about African parents from many of us but it's Toke that said it, so 'Agenda must Agendate'.
— Pablo Noser (@pablobignose) January 11, 2020
I just watched the Toke vlog now. She actually said the truth.
The ones doing whatsapp and Twitter data plan that can not play videos are also dragging her. Its really tragic!
— Sir Ekpizzle (@ekpizzle) January 11, 2020
80% of African parents ruin their children, but in Africa especially in Nigeria the “Respect factor” always make us go blind because you can’t drag your parents for doing wrong. Toke is so right on this one, but because it came from Toke. Ok.
— NUMERO UNO🍁🍃🍂 (@olamizzy) January 11, 2020
Is Toke Makinwa feeling like her parents ruined her life? Parents may not always get it right with their decisions and how they choose to bring kids up but you can't question their intentions. if she feels her life is ruined, I'm not sure it was her parents intention to do that. https://t.co/VNvSxolkVE
— TA (@tope414) January 11, 2020
Y’all must just look for a way to insult and drag Toke.
She basically said the truth. 🤷🏽♂️
— Anon (@rickhova) January 11, 2020
Getting whipped shaped your life. African training is harsh love yet it shape your life for good. Toke wants the western training where most children have turned rebellious. She wanted freedom at an early aged and now talks like a child https://t.co/PpAk49YQtQ
— ⚓Johnny❄️Bright⚓ (@Johnny_Bright_) January 11, 2020
She didn't say all African parents but y'all just going off on her bcos it's Toke. My parents ruined my life, my siblings ruined my mental health, so yes I can relate. I also know a lotta pple in therapy bcos of what their families did to them! The truth isn't for all tho. 🤷🏾♀️ https://t.co/cmurtEvvXU
— Ajiké 'FireStarter' (@soulhighpriest) January 11, 2020
You lot criticizing Toke's stance on African parents and parenting are the reason why you have the type of govts you've had so far.
That they behaved the way they did or still do, because of the generation they grew up in does not negate the fact that a lot of their approach…
— ˈɛliət (@elly_jayyy) January 11, 2020
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