Toke Makinwa, popular media personality, says she once watched her estranged husband, Maje Ayida, have sex with his lover and mother of his child, Anita Solomon.


The Rythm FM OAP made the startling revelation in her new book, ‘On Becoming’.

She shared with Bella Naija, excerpts from the book to heighten anticipation ahead of the launch.

“At some point while we were dating, Maje had asked if he could tape us having sex. This was a new one for me but I would do anything to keep my man, or so I thought, and so I obliged. But I was nervous afterwards because I didn’t want the tape to get into the wrong hands.


“I dragged the file back to his desktop, and I could tell from the stilled image in the video that the person in it was not me. I clicked play and watched horrified as Maje had sex with Anita. Watching that video, all of the inadequacies I thought I had dealt with over the years came rushing back.

“I had been with Maje from when I was an immature teenager, through my twenties, and for most of those years, Anita had been the standard I had to live up to. I had lightened my skin at some point – Anita was half Lebanese and half Ibibio, and Maje made me feel like he preferred her lighter skin.”

The On-Air-Personality disclosed in her book how the ugly news of her husband having to birth a child from another woman shattered her.


“I got on my knees in front of him, my voice calm as I can make it. Maje, you can’t keep lying, what is going on?

“He walks away, leaving me there with my heart in my hands. I see him pacing like he is having a private conversation. Then all of a sudden, he walks back to the living room, looks straight into my eyes and says, ‘She’s pregnant’.

“I fall to the ground. My head….‘What’s she having?’ ‘A boy,’ he says.

“How long have you known?”


“I’ve always known…. It was what I thought I wanted,’ he says.”

Meanwhile, the TV host says she is on her journey to healing the deep wound, letting go, forgiving and becoming a better person with a phrase that captured it all; “To become, I must shed it all”.

She announced that: “this time, I knew what happened to me happened for a reason. I am a city set on a hill. My life will reflect God’s glory. I have been giving a platform to share and God was going to use my pain”.

“The devil finds a way to fill your head with lies when you have just gone through a period. These lies can make you question everything, including the very purpose of your existence. Lies like:


“You’re not good enough. This is the best thing that could have happened to you and now it’s falling apart, this will end you”

“When this lies came, God’s word provided a much-needed comfort and a reminder of my identity and His plans for me”.

The tell-all book would be launched in Nigeria on Sunday, November 27, and would be available in bookstores on November 28.


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