Adeola Olubamiji, a Nigerian woman based in Canada, has become the subject of discussion on Twitter after she recounted how she ditched her ex-lover to pursue her PhD programme.


In a lengthy Twitter thread, Olubamiji said she and her ex-boyfriend were both students in Finland at the time and were juggling their education with a cleaning job.

The lady claimed that the man was madly in love with her.

She also claimed that he could go any length to show his depth of affection.


Olubamiji said while the relationship lasted, she got a fully-funded scholarship to pursue her PhD programme in Canada.

This, she said, prompted her ex-lover to propose to her.

Olubamiji, who is now the founder of STEMHub foundation, said she accepted the guy’s proposal due to fear that “he could harm himself” if she had rejected it before moving to Canada.


According to her, the relationship eventually hit the rocks not long after she left for Canada.

Olubamiji said she was initially scared that her action would backfire as finding love after her failed relationship with the guy became a concern amid societal pressure.

The lady disclosed that she finally got a partner, whom she described as “the greatest supporter I have ever known.”

Reflecting on her journey so far, Olubamiji said she has no regrets ditching her ex-lover to pursue her career.


“Would the guy have proposed when he did if I didn’t get the admission? I think he wouldn’t,” she wrote.

She also enjoined ladies to avoid “destiny stoppers” trying to discourage them from pursuing their goals with marriage proposal.

“Lastly, any destiny-stopper that want to use marriage to stop your progress, May Holy Ghost fire consume them and their plots ! You deserve to have kids when you can take care of them. Any gossiping family members putting pressure on you, may God silence them!” she added.

Her thread has since ignited a wave of reactions on Twitter, with Nigerians sharing contrasting views using the hashtag “#Destiny Stopper”.


While some users argued that she took the right decision, others accused her of being “selfish.”

Here’s what some users had to say:


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