Bisola: Women judged more harshly than men for having children out of wedlock

Bisola Aiyeola, ex-Big Brother Naija contestant, has said that women face more criticism than men for having children out of wedlock.

The former reality show star said this in an interview with Ebuka Obi-Uchendu on Rubbin Minds, a talk show on Channels TV.

“I feel if it would have been better if I were a guy,” said Bisola who has a daughter from a prior relationship.

She continued: “There’s a stigma attached to single mothers, especially if you have a child out of wedlock. You’re judged.

“A lot of people actually said to me that they thought I had my child while I was in secondary school. I was like no, I was a grown woman. I was 23 years old when I had her.

“They kind of make it seem like the whole world is against you. It’s now up to the woman to bring herself up and I have an amazing family. My mum has always been on my side. If I was a guy, I would be celebrated more.”

Aiyeola also spoke about her relationship with fellow housemate, Thin Tall Tony, after the conclusion of the reality show.

While the show lasted, TTT, as he’s popularly known, withheld from Bisola the fact that he was married with children.

The actress/singer only found out after the show ended.

But she says the issue is now water under the bridge yet admitted that she felt hurt by his lie of omission.

“After the show, I see things differently, I don’t want to dwell on the issue,” she said.

“Personally I don’t think there is anything he has to explain to me, I would like him to go on with his family, and I don’t want to cause any problem especially with social media.

“I felt we were friends and the least you could do was to tell me and tell me to keep it a secret and I would have done that.

“I felt he did me bad on that, but it was a game and I am seeing it from the game perspective. He was playing his game and I can’t blame him for that.”

Bisola emerged first runner-up of the show which was won by Efe Ejeba.